MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS

DO LOVE FIRST

Our Philosophy
DO LOVE FIRST

We recognize that all people live their best lives when they are involved in healthy, meaningful relationships. We have developed a philosophy based on the theory that all meaningful relationships are rooted in a true understanding of love. We recognize that love involves feelings, but is not directed by them. The feelings that come when practicing the attributes and actions of love are by-products of love, not love itself. We have created this philosophy believing that love is a choice within the grasp of all individuals. We have summarized this choice into a simple but challenging phrase: “Do Love First”. These three words are a call to action and a choice to engage. In today’s society, love has become a complicated word with many meanings. We want to be clear in our meaning of love, so we have defined it through ten central attributes. 

THE TEN ATTRIBUTES OF LOVE 

 

PATIENCE

Seeing the bigger picture of the relationship and choosing to maintain and build trust


KINDNESS

An expression of benevolence and strong character


GENTLENESS

A path of peace


EMPATHY

The ability to see and feel things from another person’s perspective


EXPRESS & FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE

Making a choice to seek, voice, and believe truth


CONTENT

Being at peace with who we are and what we have


SELF-CONTROL

The appropriate expression of emotion


SELF-SACRIFICE

Choosing to give up something that you can’t get back for the betterment of another


ASSUME THE BEST

Allows a relationship to experience trust


NOT EASILY OFFENDED

Adds to the security, depth, and honesty of conversation